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Friday, August 13, 2004

It is a mystery why we fall in love.

It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails.

You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore than take the life out of this and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore than take the life out of the experience. Just as life itself is something more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is something more than the sum of the interest and attractions and commonalities that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.
Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life- the gift of love will come to you in full flower, and you will take hold of it and celebrate it in all its expressible beauty. This is the dream we all share more often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.

When this happens to young people they too try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift freely given and a gift just as freely moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on.

They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong with them that makes the other person no longer love them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small thing were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life together, their love will grow.

They try to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

You need to know this about love, and to accept it. You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with youself. There is nothing wrong with you, love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and you didn't love her, feel honored that love came at your door, but gently refuse the gift you can not return. Do not make advantage, do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how love will deal with you, and all hearts feel the same pain and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or assess blame. Let it go. There is reason and there is a meaning, you will know it in time, but time itself will choose the moment.

Remember you don't choose love. Love chooses you.

All you can do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fill you to overflowing then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who seem poor in spirit, give it to the world in any way you can.

This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love they understand love only as a need. They cease to be someone who seeks love. they forget the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it in your heart. Love has its own time, its own season, and its own reasons for coming and going. You cannot bribe it, coerce it or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. If you keep your heart open, it will come again.



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1. 28 is my fave number... actually anything with an 8...Ü
2. I was born on March 28, 1987...
3. I studied nursery in Sagrada Familia Pre-School.
4. I spent 11 years in St. Scholastica's College, Manila.
5. I consider April 15-May 24, 2002 to be the best six weeks of my life! AJSS35 pa rin!
6. I love the color pink!
7. I'm jologs, my gawd! I watch pinoy TV and I enjoy it talaga! I watch pinoy movies and I simply love 'em...
8. I collect PINK magazines.
9. I appeared sa PINk Mag before, in their 2nd ish! And sa Candy Oct 2005 ish.
10. I love shopping! Bangkok!!!
11. I'm mataray! but not super mataray...
12. A lot of people say I look intimidating...
13. I'm kikay, but not too kikay-ish...
14. I hate wearing sleeveless tops.
15. I'm more often than not "sporty" in the way i dress up.
16. I'm confident to speak in public.
17. I'm not afraid to say what I think.
18. I can't memorize things! I hate memory work!
19. I'm an ISKA!
20. I'm a debater! (UPM-Debate Circle rox!
21. I'm boylet-less and happy to be single. (I'm not looking!!!)
22. I hate jerks! (you guys know who you are!!!)
23. I used to weigh 140 when i was in 2nd year...
24. I don't eat rice pag dinner...
25. I call myself TRISH, everyone else calls me Patty Ü
26. I love taking pictures of cute kids...
27. I love the beach in BORACAY!
28. When I'm good, I'm very good... When I'm bad, I'm very bad!!! So don't mess with me!

 

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